These 4 steps have been my guide to bringing authenticity to my life. I share them with hope that they will do the same for you.
Ground yourself in your values
To truly align to whats important to you understanding your values. Because they can change with life experience it is important to check in with yourself. Often, we hold tight to the same values we grew up with, when we need to reevaluate what feels right to us now and align our actions around those things. Get clear on what you care about and authenticity will take hold.
“Who we are evolves and changes,” Tony Robbins
Live with an open mind
Authenticity can be alive if we experience the world with an open mind and understand it from every perspective. Closed minded thinking traps us with judgment and limitation. This becomes a limitation between being vulnerable and authentic with ourselves. Challenge yourself to look at all sides of a situation. Be open.
Fill in the blank: If you really knew me you’d know this: ___________. Tony Robbins asks this to seminar participants. The idea is to encourage looking in and seeing your true self. This helps to build trust, integrity, credibility and confidence in your relationships.
Be curious not furious
Knowing when you are being inauthentic is a great way to understand yourself. When you feel resistance, or when you words don’t match your true feelings this is a powerful time to explore the fears and beliefs that surface. Take the time to be curious with yourself, without judgement. Trust your instincts and they will serve you well!
“This is a dynamic process and one we can keep moving into at deeper levels. Feel that, pay attention to that. This is less about a destination than a journey of going deeper to keep discovering and unfolding new pieces of ourselves as we go.” Tony Robbins