Tips to awaken, recognize, nourish, cultivate and honor Your Inner Strength that will leave you feeling grounded, supported and able to accomplish anything.
Have you ever noticed that no matter what you just learned the moment you are complete there is a sense of what’s next? A consistent push to be better, know more, to change and only then can you be the person you want to be. And then the moment we complete that method we are on to the next book, the next class, the next retreat.
Transparently I had been in this hampster cage for a long long time. There are times even know when I find myself trying to step back in. Everywhere we look there is a new message for self-improvement and self-development. It is so easy to step back in.
So the big question is: What has changed?Think back to the last 5 programs you did and ask yourself… What has really changed? Chances are you made a ton of notes, you had a lot of realizations and lots of plans for how to add the learnings to your life. But then you get home, or back to work and after a day or two, it has all been put on the back burner. Sure there were some valuable discoveries and you really did learn the information. And yet our daily to do’s and challenges are still waiting for us when we return.
Could it be we are looking in the wrong place?We have become so accustomed to the pattern of thinking when something challenges us we need something to face it. Okay well, let’s test that theory. Who here wants to lose weight? How about who wants to save more for retirement? What about who wants to change careers? Now think about what do you need to know to make that happen? Well, eat less move more. Put money in savings and don’t spend it. Book interviews and quit. See we actually already know what we need to do. We simply don’t do it. And our solution is… take another empowerment workshop. Read another self-help book. Register for another self-development retreat or workshop. Ultimately we keep adding knowledge hoping for a new result.
What’s missingSo if we have all the knowledge we need, how are we not able to do what we want when we want? Could it be there is something else in the way? I say YES! And I have been able to see through personal experience, through teaching, and in working directly with my clients for many years what the secret ingredient is. The answer is to awaken our own inner strength. To understand it, nourish it, to cultivate and honour it. I believe we are forgetting who we are. What we have accomplished and what we have overcome. We are forgetting that we are own guru, that we know what works for us, what doesn’t. We know what we need and what we don’t like.
“Self-improvement represents a $10 billion per year industry in the U.S. alone. In addition to high revenues, self-help also has a high recidivism rate, with the most likely purchaser of a self-help book being the same person who purchased one already in the last 18 months. This begs the question of how much good these self-help books and seminars are doing for consumers. If they are so effective at solving our problems, why do they usually result in a continuing stream of self-help purchases?” BrainbloggerWe can either find ourselves feeling like we are trying to keep our canoe afloat as we paddle hard against the current. Or we can cultivate our inner strength and be with our own current where we can travel great distances and feel like we are in the flow of the current. For me and my clients, our greatest successes have come when we have found, nourished and cultivated our inner strength. Even when times are tough, it is this strong inner strength that gets us through it.
Awakening your Inner StrengthIf there is one thing you can count on it is inconsistency. Our journey is full of ups and downs. Challenges come and some even become obstacles. Opportunities become wins or steps we regret not taking. One thing I know is that the key to building success in life is to look within. No matter if it is in relationships, goals, dreams or work. The one constant is always YOU.
Tips to Awaken Your Inner Strength!
Self AwarenessSeeing ourselves for who we give us strength like nothing else. But how we apply it is what really determines it’s power. You see we can either look in and judge what we see, or we can look in and nourish, cultivate and honor what we see. The best part is that it is in the struggles that we have the opportunity to learn the most. I experienced this when I got sick (Read more about this experience by clicking here). You see at first I felt alone like I didn’t have the knowledge I needed. I felt unsupported when the doctor brushed off my concerns. It was actually at my wit’s end as we say when I was the most down that I found the answers I needed. I called a friend and was referred to a new doctor. Then, I recognized I needed someone who was my advocate and I stood for myself getting that. I leaned into what made me free good and lessened my symptoms. This awareness led me to dive into my yoga practice further, to understand how to calm my body and mind from stress.
Give yourself timeWe are always in a hurry to fix things and often this gets in the way of our success. Maybe it is all the quick fixes we have in our society that has made us feel we need to react so quickly. The 10-minute workout, the 5-minute dinners, drive-through windows, and Franklin Covey teaching us to be more somehow. Some how it’s like we took that as we have to react right now to everything. All it takes is to give yourself permission to take the time you need! Sound simple? Well, it isn’t. It will take recognizing the pattern we have to quick fix problem solve. And then an active decision to hold space.
Consider what the issue really isWhen we move so quickly to solve a problem we often spend very little time on understanding the root cause. The result is we end up with a new problem, or the same problem showing up in a new way. One way to get clear on what is happening is to use the 5 Whys process.
Benefits of the 5 Whys
- Help identify the root cause of a problem.
- Determine the relationship between different root causes of a problem.
- One of the simplest tools; easy to complete without statistical analysis.
How to Complete the 5 Whys
- Write down the specific problem. Writing the issue helps you formalize the problem and describe it completely. It also helps a team focus on the same problem.
- Ask Why the problem happens and write the answer down below the problem.
- If the answer you just provided doesn’t identify the root cause of the problem that you wrote down in Step 1, ask Why again and write that answer down.
- Loop back to step 3 until the team is in agreement that the problem’s root cause is identified. Again, this may take fewer or more times than five Whys.
Here is an example
- Problem Statement: You are on your way home from work and your car stops in the middle of the road.
- 1. Why did your car stop? – Because it ran out of gas.
- 2. Why did it run out of gas? – Because I didn’t buy any gas on my way to work.
- 3. Why didn’t you buy any gas this morning? – Because I didn’t have any money.
- 4. Why didn’t you have any money? – Because I lost it all last night in a poker game.
- 5. Why did you lose your money in last night’s poker game? – Because I’m not very good at “bluffing” when I don’t have a good hand.