Recovery from high functioning PTSD and my Eating Disorder: What I didn’t know and how it helped and hindered me

I have spent my life keeping busy. At the height of it I was working 70-80 hours a week, volunteering over 1200 hours a year, over and above being a married mom of two. Five years ago I left this lifestyle, I even thought I had completed this part of my life. And now I can see, I have spent my life keeping busy because then I never had the time to deal with the pain, the thoughts, the emotions, the trauma. I was filling the space up to not feel. Continue Reading

The rest I didn’t know I deeply needed

We live in a society that is focused on productivity, high producing, and achieving behaviors. We say things like “do more with less” and “sleep when I’m dead”. We see people who are busy as productive, stressed as up to big things, and achievement as the only important measure of success. The result is we are experiencing significant increases in chronic fatigue or its more recently introduced name, myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME). A 2017 survey shows some 560,000 Canadians report that they have the disease, a 36.7 percent increase over previous results from 2014. The number also suggests the disease may be more common than breast cancer, Parkinson’s disease, and multiple sclerosis combined. Since March of 2020, we are seeing significant experiences of compassion fatigue, lockdown fatigue, and pandemic fatigue. Continue Reading

Embodied Self Regulation: How the Vayus help us

A story from our founder, Melanie Taylor In February of 2020, after years of struggle and misdiagnosis, I was diagnosed with PTSD. The year that followed has been filled with therapy, tears, and a lot of healing. Part of the healing came from looking at my past and present with fresh eyes. To look into Continue Reading

DIY How to Make Your Own Yoga Props

With more yoga classes happening online, you may find yourself missing those studio props. Props are an excellent way to enhance, support, and adapt your practice. At the Life of Wellness Institute, we recommend props because they aid us in our practice.  They allow us to be in control of and isolate the sensations we Continue Reading

I am not resilient: A story of discovery and recovery

How it started I am a human being. And until recently I didn’t really know what that meant. This is my story of discovery and recovery. There is a traumatizing moment in my childhood where the playful curiosity immediately faded and I began carrying the backpack of PTSD. From this day forward I layered on Continue Reading

Yoga Nidra: Release stress and tension with this practice

I remember the first time I experienced a Yoga Nidra practice. My sister was sick, and I was filled with worry and stress. As I settled into the familiar home of Savasana, I allowed my awareness to settle into the voice guiding me to deepen my breath, settle, and through the systematic meditation travel through the pancha maya kosha. Continue Reading

Creating Wellness in the Workplace begins with you

The Workplace Challenge You have worked extremely hard to get where you are and to create your workplace. Invested years of study, long days, taking work home and giving up personal time. You arrive in the position you want and likely find that leadership, like the climb to get there, is full of challenges and Continue Reading

Protect yourself from the energy and emotions of others

Our words and our story affect us and those around us. In a previous post, “You are the writer of your own story” I shared the importance of being the editor of our story. Today I want to share ways to protect yourself from the impact that both our own story and the stories of Continue Reading

When things go wrong as they sometimes will

Sometimes I feel like life just knocks me down with a Rocky sized punch. You know those days when things go wrong in a way that reminds us of just how human we are. And that being human means I have needs to be met, and if I don’t meet them I’ll crash. Today I Continue Reading

What if I told you that you can have true happiness now?

Imagine this… What if I told you that you already have everything you need to find true happiness? I bet right about now you are thinking it can’t be true. That this is some gimmick, some self-help cure to all woes. I get it! And it’s still the truth. Okay, let’s get real for a Continue Reading

Healing my negative self-image

Ever wondered what drives your fears and negative self-image, and how to begin healing? It’s hard work, but worth every moment, every tear. I recently heard someone say that who we are today is a chain of connections of our experiences and surroundings. This really connected with me as it made me think about how I Continue Reading

Why we need community to thrive!

There has been a lot of suffering in my family and community lately. So far this year we lost our nephew, and another nephew is struggling with anger. My brother in law and step-father both had heart surgeries. Friends and businesses owners have had to close their businesses due to low sales. The list goes Continue Reading

My victory over “I’m not lovable”

Have you ever noticed that everything you suffer from all comes down to one or two limiting beliefs? That it can stop you from true happiness everywhere in life? For me, this is the belief “I’m not lovable”. How it all started Here I am living the life of a free child when all of Continue Reading

Knowing when it is time to let go

Knowing how and when to let go is one of the hardest things to do. Our emotions act as a cloud above us. Making it harder to see clearly. This can leave us confused and feeling that it is too hard. “The truth is unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive Continue Reading

Awaken your inner strength today

If you follow me on social media you may have noticed me say “Awaken Your Inner Strength”. This is something that has great meaning for me, and today I wanted to share this with you. Deep within all of us is a sacred space. A place where our true self lives. The place where our Continue Reading

When your daily road of emotions seems all uphill

These past few months have been filled with difficult situations, overwhelming emotions, and BIG decisions. The kind of situations that you can not prepare for. What I have seen in these moments is how easy it is to disengage. For emotions of overwhelm, frustration and anger to take over. And nothing in these moments make me Continue Reading

You already have everything you need for happiness

We all have dreams, wants, desires, and most of all happiness. They are simply a part of who we are as human beings. It comes from our ability to dream. And what is predictable in our behavior is that our dreams give us access to thinking we aren’t enough now. Our dreams take our focus off Continue Reading

Making the difficult doable

This past week I found myself feeling the stress of a difficult conversation I had been avoiding. Sign after sign shining as a reminder of what I needed to face. I was looking over and over for ways to avoid it altogether. Yet the effects of avoidance were becoming more in focus with every moment. Continue Reading

Live with Unguarded Authenticity

On Internation Women’s Day, I attended the Ladies Talk Out Loud conference with many others from our community. The event was created by the incredible Karen and Ladies Out Loud. They are an authentic social group for women to learn, laugh, and live out loud.  Click the link to see Ladies Out Loud’s upcoming events! Each Continue Reading

To do it all, or not to

These past weeks or so has been difficult for me. So many things have happened and it has left me in need of a change. Let’s start at the beginning… I’ve always prided myself in being able to get things done. To be where I need to be, do what I need to do. And until Continue Reading

The 10 things that each made me 10% happier

It seems like everywhere we look someone is telling us how to be happier. Commercials telling us what we need to buy to be happier. Store windows showing us the look of happier. Memberships to buy happiness long term. So how does this manifest? Being told over and over what we need to be happy, Continue Reading

50 things to do when you feel overwhelmed

50 things you can do when you feel overwhelmed No matter how long I’ve been practicing meditation and yoga I still have bad days and get overwhelmed. In fact, I had one yesterday, we woke up really early to the smell of the motor burned out in our furnace and a cold house. As is Continue Reading

Taking off the masks we wear

I want to share with you a week that was incredibly eye-opening for me. It’s allowed me to see a mask I’ve always worn and the impact it has had on my life. As part of a class, we were asked to interview people in different communities in our lives. The point was to understand Continue Reading

The one true teacher lives in the center of your heart

Have you ever had one of those moments where you realized that you had the answer all along? Over the past few years I’ve learned this lesson over and over. And let’s be honest, it was there before but I chose to be blind to it. What’s the lesson? I am my own best teacher! Continue Reading

Do you have negative thoughts? Remember “RAIN”

How many times a day do negative thoughts seem to rain in your mind? Feelings that you aren’t good enough? Comparing yourself to someone else? For me, this happens all the time. After that, the only difference today is I no longer believe these thoughts! The simple secret to change In a stressful situation or Continue Reading

Your tribe is everything! Tips to creating your community

This week has been pretty intense, five 16 hour days getting home with barely enough energy to get from my car to bed, getting up just 5 hours later to start again.  My feet hurt, I’m a bit dehydrated and admittedly I’m glad to be sitting here writing in my blog. While my body may be Continue Reading

I do yoga so I can bend and not break

I often ask my students why they love yoga and why they want to dive deeper into their yoga practice. I always love hearing each answer as it gives me an insight into their experience and how I can support them. Today I want to tell you about the answer that affected me the most. Continue Reading

Creating a lasting Mantra

Have you noticed that what we planned on New Year’s Eve is already fading away?  In fact, I am sure you have seen all sort of advertisements, social media trying to help you “not lose track”, “stay on track”. How a membership or product will help you be successful. And yet, we have every possible Continue Reading

How to live life with less stress and more energy

After over 20 years of being a coach and trainer, I have seen my fair share of stress in my clients and students. Even within my personal life stress has had its own grip on me at times in my life. I recently read an article by  Eric Larson, PCC in the International Coaching Federation blog where Continue Reading

Finding some silence between all the noise

I am finding more and more in my own life and in the lives of my clients a sense of deep exhaustion. I’ve been spending a lot of time on this reflection lately wondering what is the consistent link. What I always find funny about this is that it isn’t new knowledge, it isn’t something Continue Reading

Beating holiday stress

As the holiday season begins it can bring with it additional stress. Our desire to make everything perfect, to do it all, to be it all. The pressures of fitting so many extra events into our schedules, the gift shopping, the baking and decorating. All of this building up to the actual holiday can leave Continue Reading

Is Intuition the highest form of intelligence?

In the world today we have more access to information than any other time.  Day after day we are bombarded with marketing, memes, and entertainment telling us how to live a happier life. And yet we seeing the highest rates of unhappiness and stress recorded in modern history.  There are more people today facing stress-related Continue Reading

“Burn the ships” a lesson about not giving up on yourself

Have you ever heard the expression “burn the boats”? It comes from 1519 during the Spanish conquest of Mexico, when Hernán Cortés the Spanish commander, scuttled his ships so that his men would have to conquer or die. Basically, he created a point of no return for himself and his men. What is the lesson Continue Reading

Cultivating and Honoring your Inner Strength

Tips to awaken, recognize, nourish, cultivate and honor Your Inner Strength that will leave you feeling grounded, supported and able to accomplish anything. Have you ever noticed that no matter what you just learned the moment you are complete there is a sense of what’s next? A consistent push to be better, know more, to Continue Reading

We can be heroes just for one day

One of my favorite songs is by the great David Bowie, “We can be heroes just for one day”. The words just speak to me! Okay, let’s be honest this could be because I’m a child of the 70s. Definitely could be that I found my way in life through the music of the 70s Continue Reading

Please don’t have a nice day

I first heard these words lying in bed in a hostel in Vancouver during a quiet Monday evening. A day out of my normal routine in our home in Alberta, it began with an authentic moment with a stranger who became a friend in the few days that we had together as roommates. An experience Continue Reading

What I’m thankful for on Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is a time to be thankful for the family we love, the friends we cherish, what we have and for the blessings that will come. As I reflected this week I found myself overwhelmed with so many reasons to be grateful. In celebration, I wanted to share what’s most important to me. My family Continue Reading

Bold and Unapologetic Integrity and Authenticity

I have been reflecting a lot of integrity and authenticity.  It seems to be something that is all around us these days and not in a good way. More and more it seems that we have a lack in these areas. Why does this matter? Okay, I’m going to be a bit blunt here. I think it is Continue Reading

What it really means to hold space for yourself

Why taking care of yourself matters A recent lesson as a mom reminded me of how important it is to hold space for yourself. As a mom there is nothing worse that your child being sick or hurt. Recently we went through a very difficult experience with our son. The look of fear in his Continue Reading

What it really means to hold space for someone

Holding space when others need you most My first opportunity to learn how to hold space for someone was when my gramma got really sick. I remember it so clearly it was 1996 and I was pregnant with my daughter. The details seemed to be in pieces and then all at once. It soon became Continue Reading

7 Fatal Mistakes people make when choosing a Coach

Coaching is a future-focused session with the aim of helping you determine and achieve your goals. By examining what is going on in your life right now we can discover what your obstacles or challenges are and co-design a course of action to make your goals, ambitions and dreams a reality. How you pick your Continue Reading

Discarding my old belief for one that serves me

Have you ever been in one of those moments where you just make a decision to do something even if you aren’t really sure how it will all work out and then after it’s all said and done you kinda giggle at the past doubtful fearful you? This is EXACTLY what I am feeling right Continue Reading

Finding freedom in the pursuit of happiness

The journey to happiness It’s easy on our journey to find happiness to be inundated with messages telling us to just “be positive”? Like it’s a light switch you can just turn on and that’s all that is needed. What is really happening is a play on our desires as in marketing connecting to our Continue Reading

A Celebration of International Day of Yoga

When I began to think about my celebration of the International Day of Yoga my first thought was to connect to what yoga means to me. If you’ve heard my story you know that I’ve been practicing for more than 30 years. At first yoga was exercise for me, I often found myself feeling limited Continue Reading

3 Proven Ways to Make Your Dreams Come True

Have you ever wondered why some people are so good at making their dreams come true? Or even been frustrated at how easy they make it look? This used to be me, I would look at others with a sense of curiosity and a little bit of envy. They just seemed to have gotten a Continue Reading

Are you a slave to your calendar?

I have a question… Are you a slave to your calendar? Does it make you feel like an underperforming employee just waiting for your next bad review? Changing my perspective A few weeks ago on a call with a mentors talking about electronic calendars when a couple of key things became very clear. It is Continue Reading

Recognizing and changing our patterns

Have you ever noticed the pattern of how easily we respond with “I’m ok” or “I’m good” without actually checking in? Maybe this is a result of our culture, how fast paced the world can be. But I wonder, could it be that we’ve forgotten to trust ourselves first? Or are we simply telling the Continue Reading

How I’m facing my technology crutch

If you’ve ever worked with a mentor you’ve likely experienced one of those moments where you find clarity that changes your perspective in the blink of an eye. For me it was one of those moments where I faced something I was making harder than it needed to be. What has happened since is nothing Continue Reading

Managing the Effects of Grief and Stress

For me watching a loved one face grief is one of the hardest things I’ve had to do. I find myself wanting to take the pain away, ultimately knowing that I can’t is SO hard and let’s face it pretty stressful. This week it began with a phone call, you know the one that comes Continue Reading

Turning Self-Awareness into change vs New Year’s Resolutions

Turning self-awareness into change isn’t an easy thing to do. You can see this in so many daily life examples that turn into New Year’s Resolutions. How many of the following list of  Time Magazine’s Top 10 Commonly Broken New Year’s Resolutions have you tried? Lose Weight and Get Fit Quit Smoking Learn Something New Eat Healthier Continue Reading

8 Tips for Holiday Mindfulness

So often when planning for the holiday season we can get stressed. Whether dealing with family dynamics, planning to navigate holiday parties or fitting in family time in busy holiday schedules. So I have put together a list of mindfulness tips to help reduce stress and bring a calming peace to your holiday season. Mindfulness Continue Reading

Craniosacral Therapy and why it is so powerful

Why I choose Craniosacral for all clients As part of my therapy sessions I almost always complete a treatment with Craniosacral Therapy. I see it as a way to give my client time to restore their mind, body and spirit through activating their parasympathetic system. So what does that all mean? And why is this Continue Reading

How I’m learning to trust in my ability to trust

Recently I’ve been spending time thinking about my ability or lack of ability to trust. It is so easy to remember the people who proved untrustworthy, or why I didn’t trust in a possibility or even myself. What has been hard is to look back at how not trusting people who had worked hard to Continue Reading

How I’m getting out of the way of my goal

I’m not gonna tell you that I have everything that I want or that I live a mistake free life. As always when I’ve reached a goal I tend to pile on more. In a never ending pursuit of change, wanting more from and for myself. I’ve learned that whether it is knowing we have Continue Reading

Which will help me Affirmations or Afformations?

For years I have used Affirmations with a varied level of success. If you haven’t tried them yet, affirmations are a positive statements that you repeat to yourself while looking in the mirror. They serve as a reminder and an opportunity to set an intention about the kind of person you want to be. Affirmations Continue Reading

How to Stop Stress and kick it to the curb!

How often do you find yourself really stressed, exhausted, and even fighting weight gain no matter what you eat or how often you workout? Find out how to Stop Stress and kick it to the curb! Cortisol which is often called the “stress hormone” is one of the main hormones in our body that is Continue Reading

Why I love my journal

I never used to use a journal at all and now I carry it everywhere I go. Over the past 2 years I have gone through significant changes in my health and wellness. It has been a long journey and sometimes it felt unmanageable and like I would never reach my destination. So what does Continue Reading

Saving your New Years resolution from failure

What is it about the New Year that makes us all think about change and ultimately a New Year’s resolution? Sometimes I wonder if it is just the name “New” Year. Or is it being around our family and thinking about what we want to be different the next time they see us? After getting Continue Reading

Options for days that you need a boost

I’ll be honest, I get down sometimes and need a boost. It happens to all of us, you’re just having a bad day… or even a bad week. Sometimes you know why and sometimes it just feels like things aren’t connecting. What really matters is how we react, how we allow it to sink in Continue Reading

How to set boundaries that are true to your values

There will always be people around you that act in a way that is inconsistent with your values It may be that they say something, do something around you. It could be they do something directly towards you, this is where things can get really challenging. It’s good to have a plan so that you Continue Reading

Finding your courage in a sea of fears

When I think about Remembrance day I am always amazed at the stories of unbelievable courage. I’m not sure I can even truly imagine the strength it takes. To sign up to defend your country knowing you could give your life to do it. These are my grandparents. The first picture is the wedding of my Continue Reading

A truly authentic life is the key to happiness

These 4 steps have been my guide to bringing authenticity to my life. I share them with hope that they will do the same for you. Ground yourself in your values To truly align to whats important to you understanding your values. Because they can change with life experience it is important to check in with Continue Reading

Facing your fears and ghosts

When we allow our fears to be our guides we are setting up our own limits I feel that on the day of scary and spooky costumes it is time to talk about how fears can really define us, how we interact, and especially what changes we take. Through my journey to wellness I have Continue Reading

When my confidence wavers

Have you ever had one of the days, or cluster of days, when your confidence is just gone? There are so many things that we face every day that can shake us up and rattle our core. It could be you didn’t get the result you wanted. Someone says something in a group or to Continue Reading

Thanksgiving Includes Giving Yourself Space

As we get closer to Thanksgiving, I have found myself very focused on space. How we are consistently giving and take it from ourselves and from others. When was the last time you gave yourself space? The type of space that provides you the freedom to dream, reflect and be mindful? Our lives have become Continue Reading

Following a dream can be a bumpy road

On the pursuit of a dream there will always be twists and turns on the road, they are there to test us and challenge our determination. To stay focused you must have determination and a plan. Planning for your dream to come true 1. Envision your dream This can be the most difficult part because we Continue Reading

Journey to my life of health and wellness

When you begin to tell your story, does everyone wonder… how does my journey to health and wellness start? Is the meaning deeply entrenched in your childhood, or is it really about the journey? What I have recently come to understand is that it is all about the journey. Of course my childhood has framed who Continue Reading

Why I’m glad I got sick

As I went through my own journey to wellness I had hundreds of conversations with people who like me have gotten sick or faced something traumatic that changed their lives forever. I listened as they intimately shared their suffering and their victories.  Today, I thought I would share about the question people often asked me Continue Reading